ASTRO IBIZA

WEDDING DAYS

Marriage – Choosing the best Wedding Day

In support of marriage… An honourable institution…!
Many years ago as a small child, I asked my Dad, why people got married. He reflected that it was having someone to talk things over with and to have children. Personally, I cannot argue against that, even all these years later. But frequently do comes the (logical) arguments back - You can have great chats and discussions with a person without the need to marry them. You can buy a house and raise a child, cook breakfast, fight and make up, get the car fixed, and negotiate over taking the bin out. You don’t need to be married to do any of it, just a good lawyer to help dot the i’s and cross the t’s.

So why get married?
Unless you have very specific religious or cultural beliefs, the only reason I can think of (which also happens to be the only argument in the decision to have children) is: Because you really, really want to do it.

What can compete with the warm, sweet, rapturous feeling of standing up in front of people who have followed your hapless, decadent and dissolute escapades over the years and announcing, “I choose this one”.

A salient question first however…

Why bother at all choosing an astrologically fabulous date/time for a wedding?

The premise of elective astrology is that a marriage, business venture, job, or what have you, begins at a specific moment, and within that moment are the seeds of how subsequent events will unfold. Elective astrology seeks to find the optimum day and time for that special moment.

As a professional astrologer, It’s an honour and privilege to perform such a service for my clients. It's work I always enjoy, I adore weddings, marriage, love, all that stuff. Can you tell… I’m a Pisces?

When a couple decide to get married, they probably do a number of things in that first flush of excitement: call everyone they know, make a pilgrimage to the news stand to stock up on five-pound bridal magazines, start fighting over the kind of wedding they'll have.

However, what an astrology believer does as soon as the question has been popped is make a beeline to their friendly astrologer to choose an astrologically supportive day to tie the knot.

One of the main reasons I've always enjoyed choosing wedding dates for people is that it's so straightforward. The rules are simple and clear. Anyone with the ability to read an ephemeris can do it –

It's the same principle as casting a chart for the moment of a person's birth and knowing it will tell us something about how the person's life and character might unfold. In electional astrology we seek to determine:
(1) What moment something truly begins; in a marriage, it's that moment in the wedding ceremony where the couple says "I Do"; and the official pronounces “You are now Man and Wife”
(2) What astrological factors correspond to making this particular occasion unfold to maximum benefit of all involved? Then a date and time are chosen that will provide the greatest number of these astrological factors.

For the record, in my own life, I think electional astrology is best used for events of tremendous importance (like getting married, planning important surgery, buying a house), and it would feel frivolous trying to choose the most advantageous time to, say, shop for a bargain. It's electional astrology of that kind that tends to make astrology and its devotees appear just a bit….. well…. silly.

No Perfect Date
We might as well get clear about one thing before we go any further: Just as there are no perfect marriages, there are no perfect wedding dates. And even if there were, no one would use them because they would inevitable fall on a Wednesday afternoon in March. So, using astrology to choose a date for your wedding will be terrific practice in employing one of marriage's most essential skills: compromise.

Of course most clients request me to choose a wedding date for them, saying, "We're completely flexible. We'll do it whenever you say." But they didn't mean it. Oh, they thought they meant it. But when push came to shove, not only would they not hold a wedding at 3:00 a.m. on Monday in Felixstowe to get the best possible chart, they wouldn't even consider Monday. Of course they meant a weekend -- any weekend day I chose. I mean….. obviously…..

But they didn't mean that either, because they really meant any Saturday I chose. Just forget Sunday. And not Saturday at 9:00 a.m. either; what they really meant was between 5:00 and 7:00 p.m. on Saturday. And not just any Saturday, either; it had to be one of two Saturdays in June when their Aunt Fanny or Uncle Bob would be in visiting from the other side of the world.

When I present to them the indisputable evidence that these two dates bear similarity to the commencement of the 100 Years War, astrologically speaking, they look shocked, hurt and disbelieving. As if it were my fault. So I break it to them as gently: You can compromise and have a decent wedding chart, or you can have the wedding exactly when and where you want it. In the latter case I am left bemused as to why they're paying me good money for my opinion.

So, this choosing a wedding date business can be rather complicated, and as you see, for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with astrology.

In the harsh real world, the astrologer dreaming of the perfect elective chart, and the couple, who naturally have dreams of their own, will need to reach a compromise.